The first of many letters to you / Dawn Garcia (Still loving her ) Goodmorning Angel, How are things going up there? Great I hope. I just thought I would drop you a line to say I am thinking of you and I miss you so very much. You see nothing is the same around here and I know it never will be. Everyday I put on this face and smile and try to get through the day, yet it is not the same. When I talk about you people feel uneasy. I want to talk about you and not have them turn or drop their heads. Maybe they cant deal with it but, this is how I deal with it. Their silence is the worse. Your memory is a great one. I have so many memories of you, so many that they flood my mind and seem to push in another before I am done with one. Some of the best ones are just you and I. Listening to Kenny Rodgers and how much you liked him. I remember the 10 page letters you would write me and the self portrats on the envelopes. How you would sign all your letters "Love your daughter or the next best thing." You know after 4 sons I really really wanted a daughter. Before you there were times I couldnt even walk through the girls section of a store with out crying. Then here comes Brenda... All that changed. You made me happy, even though I made your life hell at times. (sorry about the table) You were always so good to me. Even when I made you walk to school for getting kicked off the "Cheese Wagon". You are to me everything I would have wanted in a daughter. I remember when you first came up here. We had long talks about how you were new here and could leave everything that you had ever done back in Joliet. That noone would know anything about you. You seemed so excited about that. It wasnt long before the "Joliet" came out in you and you had your first fight. I guess you had to stand your ground. You were a good kid and didnt like to be pushed. After that you really didnt have problems that I was aware of. But as the parent figure in the house I dont think you would have told me either. Even though we talked about alot of things, some things kids just dont tell the adults. I know you talked to Michael alot. I remember Sancia and you being here and you happy to have someone your age to talk to. I remember when Holly was here youse would stay up all night. I remember your chupon with Minny Mouse on it. So many things. They run through my mind all the time. I really wish I would have done things different so that maybe you could have stayed. I know you wanted to, or maybe you stayed because I needed you even back then. At times you were more the adult in the house. After late night or all nighters I would wake up and you would have everything cleaned up. I know you remember the night "they" came in a destroyed the house and I couldnt do anything but cry and then you cleaned it all up, and I do mean EVERYTHING! It was bad. I remember your smart comments to them about you watching tv until they rudely interupted you. We both laughed about that later. Gosh I miss you. Well I could go on and on but I will leave some room for others to write to you too. I just wanted to talk to you... I guess I always will. Well "Rastrilla" I will talk to you later. I love you. Love... The next best thing to a mom
So sad / Lesley Mom Of Mark Schroeder Brenda sounds like an amazing woman. How sad that she didn't get to be all she wanted to be in this life. Such a tragedy. My heart goes out to you all. I know this pain, my youngest son died tragically at 17 www.mark-schroeder.memory-of.com We have to believe that we get another shot at this and next time it will be better! I am sure Brenda is watching out for all of you and loving you from where she is, which is really not so far away.
myheartgoesout/ Trish Davis (passerby) My heart goes out to famly and friends of Brenda. I did not know her but after reading her poems and all the loving thoughts I just had to let all of those that had a role in her life know I wish I had knwn her. I hope and pray for your family and friends, I have lost my dear cousin December 2007 and also experiencing loss and holding a heavy heart, we know they are looking to us to be strong and to be the best we can be. We are lucky to have such beautiful angels smiling down on us. Lets remember them by being the very best we can be. Trish
I am so Sorry - God Bless you. / Kent Nielsen (Friend of sister ) I am so sorry for the loss of Brenda. I never had the privelege of meeting her online, let alone in person. But from what I understand she was an honest, loving, brave beautiful and caring young woman with a deep love for her family, especially her little girl and a will to make a good life for them both. This is an obscenity, an atrocity that she was taken, stolen from her family like this. May God bless her little daughter and her family.
I am so sorry for the loss of Brenda / Kiera- Fiance To Angel Matthew Conroy I am so sorry that you had to lose this beautiful person in such a tragic and devastating way. I lost my fiance on Dec 28 in a car accident....I thought that was tragic enough...but to lose this girl at the hand of a former boyfriend is horrifying. I have 4 boys who will now grow up without a father and the only way I can continue to wake up each morning is to know that I have to take care of them. Your sister will be taking care of your daughter in Heaven and you can do the same for her daughter here. God help you and give you strength because I know you will need it to go through this.
I Had To Write Something / Passing Bye (None) I was looking up my friends son who was also murdered last year he was 17. I saw this site and to write something. Brenda was a beautiful girl and I'm very sorry for your loss. I hope the person responsible for this is tried to the fullest extend of the law and doesn't have a day of peace.
Brenda/ Tia (Friend) Oh Brenda...I am on this site everyday. Holly has done such a beautiful job at putting this together. I look at all the pictures and I see the ones of when you were here in Wisconsin. I see you and my little Suzy in that picture that, if I remember right, you did not want to take. I am glad that I "encouraged" you to do so. I remember when you were with us and Suzy fell and hit her forehed on the coffe table and how you freaked and started yelling at me to take her to the hospital. You were so funny. Suzy was OK...it was just a knock on the head. You took such good care of her. You took good care of the both of us. I remember if I came home from school or work and had had a bad day, you would ask me if I wanted something to eat and you would go into the kitchen and whip up a little mexi treat and it was always good. Every once in a while we would get together for a little pow-wow and we would eat some more. I also remember coming home, on more than one occasion, and the whole house would be clean. It didn't take me long to realize that when I came home to a clean house, you got in trouble at school. Like the time you kicked that boy in the shorts during class. I told you "Brenda, you couldn't wait till after school to kick his ass. You had to get him during class and take him down?" I wouldn't trade those days for a million bucks, kid. Please keep looking out for us...for my little girls as well. Someday they will meet a beast. Help me help them learn to recognize. That is all for now. I love You Brenda Greenwood.
Tia, Suzy and Sammy
Im a Survivor of DV at least for now :( / Maria (Passerby) I know exactly the fear and pain she went thru God knows I lvie it everyday since i left. Unfortunately he brainwashed my boys against me and the want nothign to do with me. Does it hurt, opf course, sometimes I wish I were dead but i knew he wouldnt make it easy on me when i did, do I regret it NEVER, will regret leaving them, the system fails us and cant protect us and when they wanted to relocate me I said NO I cant leave my boys....please pray for them.
I am so sorry for your loss...I cant imagine sometimes I am worried that oen day my family will go thru the same pain...but there is a GOD and everone will have their day....no only in this life but the next as well....it isnt any comfort but know that no one can ever hurt her anymore, God has taken her away from this painful world and will protect her and she will watch over her beautiful daughter and be her guardian angel.....never giev up hope you will meet her again....and be together....GOD BLESS You....all...
I am so sorry / Cherrei
I am so sorry, i have tears after reading what happened... How devastating... Brenda is so beautiful. I really don't have words, as losing a loved one is such pain. Grab on to strength from any direction. I know easy said than done. I know losing a child/loved one is pain, as i have lost my little boy whom is also in heaven. I send you hugs to help you through! Always in my thoughts and prayers. I too, was in a relationship in my teenage years and it was very abusive... I send lots of hugs!!! HUGS! Ever need to talk, i am here... http://dusttin-myhuggiebug.memory-of.com
Please take care....
The trick a mind can play / Dawn Garcia
How the mind can play tricks on its self... I was just sitting here and thinking about you as I do so offten and I was thinking about how much it hurts to have lost you and then for some weird reason I tought it will all be ok when you come back. Come back??? That wont happen and I know this but I guess my mind wont accept it. My heart knows believe me, I dont know, I just dont know. I Wish that it could be so. But as Holly said why wish, It wont change anything. Maybe its because your not gone, maybe you are still here with all of us. No not maybe, I know you are. The only thing that eases this right now is knowing one day we will be together again. I love you Brenda, I love you soo sooo much. TTYL
SORRY!!!!!!!/ INDY (VISITOR) I am so deeply sorry for your loss! May god give you and your family the strength that you need to get through this tough time! You will be in my prayers! It is hard to loose the one you love especially in such a cruel way. May god give you strength to watch over Mireya and gice her all the love in the world! She is the most precious gift Brenda could have ever left a piece of her will always carry on within her daughter.
"When someone you love becomes a memory that memory becomes a treasure"
kelleyperez.memory-of.com
I am sorry for your loss / Kim Isztok (none) Hi Holly
I know you here this all the time, I'm sorry for your loss. I have looked through the many pictures and have read the story of your sister Brenda. I could not even begin to imagine how you feel. To lose your sister and daughter. God Bless you sweetheart!! I feel bad for you. Brenda was a beautiful woman and I will pray for her daughter to make a full recovery. I hope that she does not have the memory of that night with her for the rest of her life. What a bad memory to have. I will always keep you and your family in my prayers.
I also looked at your daughter Destiny's site. What a beautiful little girl!! It just makes my heart melt that somethjing like this happens.
GOD BLESS YOU!
Nobody knows.... / Betsy (Friend of Dawn's )
Nobody knows why God allows things like this to happen. Like 9/11 of Hurricane Katrina, or Saddam Hussein. Why? Why do the good ones always get hurt? I'm writing this because somebody I am very close to at heart (Dawn) is hurting. I care enough about her to care about her friend. It's terrible what happened to Brenda, but we don't know the whole picture yet. From what I've read, she was a loving, kind, and giving person. Perhaps the residual effects of this awful tragedy will be that more women become aware of the dangers and do more to protect themselves. Perhaps her daughter will grow up stronger and with a determination to never let this happen to her or anybody she knows.
Yes, that bastard should rot in hell; but let's not let Brenda's death be in vain. Spread the word, like my friend Dawn did to me. Start support groups or self-defense classes. Help children who have lost their parents to domestic violence. DO something! Afterall, isn't this what Brenda would want?
god bless / Cheri Brooks Ohio (angels)
Take Small Steps.... / Passer By From London UK To the family of Brenda.
As a victim of domestic violence myself, I felt compelled to stop and express by great sense of sorry for the loss of your, beautiful, sister, daugther, aunt and mom Brenda.
When you hear people say there are no words to describe the pain of losing a child - especially in their prime and in such an evil way - they must be right.
Pain is what you feel when you have a headache, or tooth ache. How then can you use the same word 'pain' to describe what you are going through? Suerly it must be more than pain?
Sadness is a word one uses when you're forced to leave your home or lose touch with a friend. How can the word 'sadness' possibly beging to describe what you are going through?
Surely words cannot even begin to express what you are going through. Your feelings must be beyong description.
I am so very sorry for your loss and the impact Brenda's death will have on you all throughout your lives.
You have to remember and cherish all the wonderful memories that you shared and exprienced with Brenda. You have to remember that she was much, much more than what happened to her on that dreadful day.
Though you grieve for Brenda, you must make time to remember her as she was and the joy, love, memories and blessing that she gave you all. She would love that. Because of that she can never be forgotten.
Find support from each other and know that there is support out there when you are in need. I passed the memorial website for another victim 'Angel Love' who has also gone to join the Lord. You might find some comfort in speaking with others who walk in your shoes.
These are just a few simple words of support and encouragement. Once again, I am really sorry to be having to even write you this, but I just had to let you know that although I do not know you and never knew Brenda, she was a precious person and her story has touched me loads. My love to you. xxxxxx
Stay blessed, stay strong for you have to see this to the end, and justice will prevail.
In the meanwhile......Just one step at a time....
With deepest sympathy / Tammie H. (none)
A candle will burn in memory for your beautiful sister.
Angels/ Angelica Grover (Twinless Twin)
"Make yourself familiar with the angels, and behold them frequently in spirit; for without being seen, they are present with you. -Saint Francis de Sales
Forgivness.../ Dawn Garcia (The next best thing )Read >>
Forgivness.../ Dawn Garcia (The next best thing )
I sit and I think on how my views on God have been ove the years and I Had always thought that we have a forgiving God and no matter what we do that we would be forgiven. Now that whole thought have been wiped out. I find myself hoping that is not so, I hope that these people who did this never have a moments peace. Never find peace and never find forgiveness. I hope that they will see her face everytime they close their eyes. I think back to when they were here and he told me how much he loved her, yea right. Love is not supposed to hurt is what I told him. He sat at my table and now he murdered a woman who I love as if she were my own. He .... No, I wont this is about her not him. This to remember her and how she lived. Full of life and finally happy. VERY HAPPY!!! I remember when she was here in Wisconsin back in 96-97 she would tell me " Im so met-si-kin (Mexican) I was born on Mexican Independence Day." We did alot of crazy things just to laugh. 4th of July we hung a Mexican flag so the guy across the street would get mad. We laughted our ass off. He was so mad. Just so many little things we did were just to make ouselves laugh and not ment to offened anyone. Hehehe. She had a real good friend named Sara. Brenda would go to her house all the time and help her with her baby, she had a knack for kids. She would take all mine to a park here in Green bay and would have so much fun. She would go swiming at the waterpark and stop at the burger place and get 10 hamburgers for a buck. She really like that. She didnt have to have the most expensive things to be happy she was just happy for everything that was given to her. Things from the heart ment the world to her. Im sure Holly knows that from going through her things. Just the simple life is what made her happy. I am very fortunate to have had her in my life and forever in my heart. One day god willing we will be together to make more memories. Today she is roaming new grounds and living a pain and fearless life, one she should have lived here. But since she cant we will all relive memories over and over again until we get up there where she can show us around. Until then Lets try to remember that she lives within everyone of us. Close
I am so sorry for your loss / Donna McCann (passerby)Read >>
I am so sorry for your loss / Donna McCann (passerby)
Please know that nobody will ever harm your sister again. She is laying in the lap of Jesus now and he will protect her. May God watch over her precious baby and never let her know the fear that her mother felt. My prayers are with you and your family.
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I never had the privelege of meeting her online, let alone in person. But from what I understand she was an honest, loving, brave beautiful and caring young woman with a deep love for her family, especially her little girl and a will to make a good life for them both. 
This is an obscenity, an atrocity that she was taken, stolen from her family like this.
May God bless her little daughter and her family.
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